At the Forum.....a mixture of wonder.....
65Having joined hubpages a few......
short months ago, I consider almost 7 to be a short time considering there are people who are marvelous hubbers who have been here since it started, I have discovered one of the most unique communities on the internet.
And I feel blessed. I feel honored to be considered a "hubber"......There are so many, many people in here who are caring, showing friendship, sharing information and are from all walks of life. It is a wonderful place and I spend many evenings here just reading or writing, and "cruisin around".....
As I was crusing through the.....
questions from people and answering them and looking for something else to do in here, I clicked on forums......
There are a lot of interesting things going on in the forum.......many many interesting topics and diverse answers, and certainly a potpouri of people from all walks of life......
I wanderered around, having never really explored them before and happened on a thread which I clicked on immediately as I felt the need to help....I have always considered myself a helper....and no, I don't just stick my nose in other peoples business, but this is the way I am.....I care about people and their feelings......I always want to help in any way I am able, as I feel this is what God put all of us humans on earth for.....to help each other.....
I have studied many things, gone to college for a bit, no did not graduate, but have that experience, studied medical billing, herbal cures and have made and am still making an extensive study of Gods Word......just to give a short background on the fact that I am a helper........herbs heal, I help.... Well, clicking on the help forum, just to see what was in there, there was a thread.....and this was no ordinary thread.....it was a plea ... a plea for help....A desperate plea from someone who was at the end of their rope, and was crying out to anyone who would listen....a plea to help them as they had taken too many drugs......
I have a son.....He was actually on a presctiption of this same drug when he was young, and I knew the amount was over the hill.....I joined in and along with many other hubbers we calmly tried to get this person to call for help......Several of us actually notified staff or moderators to find an ISP......the amount of people on the thread grew....several were Doctors, several phychiatrists, and many others from our land of hub.....reaching out to this person in pain......
After starting a prayer for this person, and donig what I felt I needed to do, unfortunatly, I am in a snow state and had to leave to go put wood in the stove to stay warm, it was late and I turned off my computer and went to bed praying for this soul......I opened my page and checked the link again to see if anything had transpired and a response had come back, knowing with this much of a drug intake, it was hospitalization or worse........
What I found as I logged back into the link --- and this is where the wonder comes in....there were many more pages in the thread, but here is what I do not understand.....it was turned away from the original plea of tell me good things, I need to hear good things, to a free for all and accusing people of not knowing what they were talking about and people blaming other people on the thread for saying things they shouldn't have said........I was just in total shock ........some people even wrote it was a hoax......
Now, in my mind this is JUST WRONG. I do not care how many lashes you want to throw at someone in another place and time, but when there is a situation where someone needs help, we are and should not turn it into a free for all as to who knows what......Prayer and support was needed, not blame and ridicule for a comment someone who jumped on the thread did not like.....Someones life was at stake here and it turned into a blame game freefor alll.......HEEEELLLLLLOOOOOOOO!!!
Maybe somewhere on the net there was a hoax....but does anyone know that this was one actually??? What was asked for in the original question was to hear some nice things.....maybe this person had been abused and couldn't take anymore, they needed help......Personally, in reading today a now closed plea for help, I was unable to believe some of the responses.
There are millions of people without jobs. There are millions of people who do not know where their next meal will come from.....Some of these people have internet connections barely and maybe nothing else......Does it not suffice to say that those of us who are fortunate enough to have it all together in this day in time are supportive of a plea for help and help instead of hinder????
When a reply is made in a thread, it should not turn into a free for all to criticize someone elses opinion......a forum is to answer a question or give help, or maybe a discussion or maybe jokes, but people please......don't criticize and blame while in there, It just seems rude.
Other than this, I have enjoyed my travels in the forums....but please think how you would feel if you wanted to help and got slammed for trying.....Hubpages is a wonderful place.....I love it here!! But think about what I have said and REMEMBER.....this is my opinion and I care about peoples feelings Do you???
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Unfortunately, this "free for all" you encountered is what you will run into. There were, in the beginning, certain topics I really had an interest in visiting only to see the initial topic was long since dumped in favor of lowgrade infantile personal attacks on people. So, even though the HubPage "Gurus" say you should become involved in the forums, I will more than likely go hunting for ones where adults go to get real answers and as you said, help.
What shame that asking for help can lead to such disharmony. Disagreeing is one thing but being hurtful and nasty is totally different. Hoax? No one may ever know. But what if it wasn't? Maybe the help that was given actually saved someone's life.
I am amazed at the behavior of some people in the forums. So different than their hubs.
Personally I stay away from them. Tried them but think there is just too much garbage for me to waste my time in there.
rebekahELLE, Thank you for sharing my opinion, I did not take offense at all for myself, but was just shocked in reading the whole thread the next day....if the person who wrote the original plea goes back in God willing they are able---what will they think? Thank you so much for your supportive comment to my view....
Unchained: You and I both know the reason for the mindset of the people who do these things....thank you for your supportive comment.
reddog1027: I am hoping with you that the initial comments during the critical period of time were sufficient to make a change of mind quickly enough...It was devastating, even tho I know people are pushed to this point every day needlessly due to the economy or some type of abuse: to actually feel that I was unable except with what I wrote on the thread not to know the outcome.....I pray that it was good.....Thank you for your supportive comment
Duchess: People sometimes do not think when they write in there that it goes back to their hubs. And this goes in order with being a hypocrite...You cannot be one way and then be another....this is being "doubleminded" I think if people would understand when they are in the forum, people click on their hubs and profiles as well, they might pay more attention to how they behave in the forum....Thank you for your supportive comment..
All of you have a blessed day!!!
I've been thinking of joining a forum or two, but I hear pros and cons, so I'n just not sure. I do, however, learn some important information when looking for answers. Thanks for your wonderful hub. Voted up!
vocalcoach: Thanks so much for your comment. Forums are useful....as long as they do not develop into blaming others or major criticizing. Thanks for the vote up and Have a blessed day!!
rebekahELLE Level 5 Commenter 2 years ago
Hi, I did see the thread you are referring to and while we don't know if it was real or not, I do agree with you. Don't ever feel bad for taking the high road. It may not always be easiest, but much better than coasting through life taking the low road. There are all different kinds of people in forums and I've learned, you just can't take things personally against you. It never is, even if it appears that way. I think for the most part, HP has a group of people who do care about others, we just express it differently. Some are more vocal, and yes, some are just plain rude. Ignore them. Enjoy, and keep writing! ;]